I started this website about two years ago. I feel like now is a good time to look at and review the past two years of this website, as well as talk a little about what Improve Conversation is about.
In the first year of this website, I unfortunately did not
do as much as I could have on here, because I was busy writing up my
In the second year, I was able to put in a bit more effort, but the majority of my time was still dedicated to writing my books.
A few months ago, I completed writing two conversation books, and was able to dedicate more time to my website. Unfortunately, I faced an obstacle where I struggle a lot with the technical aspects of websites. I am a writer, not a web developer, so such tasks were beyond my skills. Thankfully, I had a friend, Tim Bao (Zhihao), who knows a lot about websites. He can do in four hours what I could not do in days of struggling with my website.
Having a friend like him helped me a lot. It also showed me the importance of being able to identify and admit my weaknesses, and finding someone who can do what I cannot do. With Tim’s help, I was able to fix a lot of problems with my website. And I can focus more on writing quality posts.
From now on, you will be seeing more posts made on this
website. My plan moving forward from this point is to put more time into my
website by posting here regularly.
I created this website, along with the conversation books I
wrote, because I had a vision to teach conversation skills to those who need it.
This is unfortunately an area that is neglected by schools and the education
system. If somebody wants to learn how to talk to others, there is nowhere for
them to go to learn it. I created Improve Conversation, which consists of this
website and my two books, to address this problem and play a role in correcting
I have dedicated years to the study of conversation and
social skills, and I wish to impart that knowledge to those who need it and can
benefit from it.
My teachings also have a secondary aim apart from teaching
conversation skills, and that is to teach others that they should have a more
important aim in their life than learning social skills or chasing popularity.
I believe in what I call the 90/10 rule. Which is that a person should not spend more than 10% of their time on their social life or improving their social skills, and they should spend at least 90% of their time on other things which are more important, such as their career, studies, hobbies, exercise, etc.
To live a life where too much time and energy is given to
your social life is to live a life that is not balanced and leads to
unhappiness. Spending too much time on your social life also leads to you
struggling more with social skills. People who spend too much time on their
social life lose their sense of identity, become needy for social approval
because they are not emotionally invested enough in other areas, and also
experience a bunch of other negative side-effects that cause them to struggle
My books, and this website, was built to teach social
skills, but with an emphasis and reminder of the 90/10 rule – of not spending
more than 10% of your time and energy on your social life.
That is what Improve Conversation is about. It’s more than
just an educational tool, it’s a mission. To teach conversation skills and the
right values to as many people as possible. If you are interested in being a
part of this mission, or support what we stand for, then I welcome you to join
I am just beginning the third year of this website’s
journey, and I look forward to it! I hope you do too.