This blog was designed to improve the conversation skills of those who read it. But a lot of people don’t understand that improving conversation skills isn’t just about learning the technical skills of talking.
There are also other factors that play a
more important role. They are:
-Having other areas of life apart from
socializing to concentrate on. This causes us to be less dependent on people
for happiness, become more confident, and also have more stories to talk about.
If you spend your time engaged in work, hobbies, exercising and other
interests, you will have more to talk to people about.
-Having the right perspective. If you view
the world in the wrong way it will be harder to talk to others. If you want
everyone to like you, or believe you need a lot of friends, or have some other
false belief, you will be more nervous and desperate around people. Which will
make it harder for your brain to think of what to say in a conversation. The
more relaxed you are, the better you will do.
-Having the right friends. We see ourselves
the way our friends see us. If we have supportive friends, they will pull us up
and make us feel more confident. And the more confident you are, the better
your ability to talk will be.
If all this blog did was just address the
technical aspect of conversation skills, it would not be giving you a complete
solution. I would just be dealing with a part of the problem. It will be just
like using sticky tape to fix the leg of a broken chair, rather than actually taking
the time and effort to replace the broken leg with a new leg. The latter takes
more time, but it leads to a stronger solution.
Working on these areas indirectly helps
your conversation abilities. But they also have bonus benefits.
There is a rising trend I currently see in
society where people have developed an unhealthy obsession with popularity.
This is a shallow type of happiness that doesn’t last. I know from experience
that popularity will not fulfill you. In order to move people away from the wrong
path and onto the right path, I put effort into writing articles on improving
one’s life. This has the benefit mentioned earlier of indirectly improving
one’s conversation skills, but also creating a fulfilling life.
I heavily address the areas of friends,
because generally when people want to learn conversation skills, it’s to make
friends. So I deal with that here. And as mentioned earlier, having the right
friends will also indirectly help one’s conversation skills.
This blog’s title is ‘Improve Conversation’,
and that is its main purpose. But it’s also so much more than that. It gives
you a stronger solution to this problem, while trying to ensure you live a
fulfilled life and don’t make the mistake of wasting your life chasing the
empty goal of popularity.
If you want to learn only the technical
aspects of conversation skills, there are plenty of blog posts written about
that under the category of ‘Conversation’, which you can find in the menu. I
have also written two books on that, which you can find by going to the ‘Books’
category. But if you want to deal with other areas that hold back your
conversation skills, then you can read the other articles I’ve written in this